Of Underrated Solitude and Rainbow Sparkles***

I spent Friday night in alone cos i only managed to eat dinner i made at 10pm, and by the time i’d slowly finished chewing (which is tiring when you’re exhausted!) i decided not to go out for a group celebration and stayed in instead. My body and mind were fighting each other. My body said no, my mind felt guilty. In the end i pushed the guilt away and decided to put myself first.

The reason i’m always out is because i have a problem saying “No” to people. I’m such a people pleaser sometimes. I just want everyone to be happy! But i really needed some time for myself to just THINK and be QUIET and do things at HOME.

I ended up doing so many things! I allowed myself to just flow from whatever i felt like to the next.

That night’s dinner dishes in the sink caught my eye and i sighed, “Might as well get to it now before i’m too tired to do it.” So i did the dishes. Then i folded the laundry that had dried. And while i was keeping the folded clothes in the bedroom, i caught sight of my half past six job of colour coordinating my wardrobe, and decided to continue it.


The folded stuff are tops, shorts and leggings that don’t wrinkle. Next to this wardrobe is another one with all my hanging stuff in black, blue, green, yellow, and brown.

I took almost 3 hours to sort a quarter of my wardrobe out. 2 more sessions to go.

Then i organised my lingerie drawer, and picked out all these bras that don’t fit me anymore to send for the Neubodi event.

I’m just gonna copy paste what was in the email i got here cos i’m too lazy to word it out for you:

“This charity campaign titled “OLD BRAS FOR CASH” is a charity bra drive, where we will be collecting gently laundered bras/used bras, which will then be donated to the women in Kathmandu, Nepal. Second hand bras are considered very much a luxury item in Nepal, and with these second hand bras, it can help them to start up a business in the second hand clothing market, which allows them to earn up to 5x of their minimum wage.

We will be officially working with UPLIFTBRAS.ORG, and for every purchase made at a Neubodi specialty store, RM1 will be donated to BCWA, Breast Cancer Welfare Association.”

I mean, that’s pretty cool right? And i always felt terrible about throwing out bras. They’re such expensive items and it’s not like you wear them till they die. Some of the ones that didn’t fit anymore (cos i lost a fair bit of weight after my allergy fiasco) are still fairly decent.

When i was done it was 2am and i figured it was time to reward my efforts with a glass of cab sav. I’d have preferred a Malbec but i can’t find any in the house. (Have to buy some. < Mental note!!) I ended up thinking about all i’d gone thru that week – rushing a presentation for a government funding opportunity, the shop KinkyBlueFairy is gonna open at Seek & Keep @ BSC this coming weekend, the work for other projects i still hadn’t completed, small ideas i have here and there that i needed to get on. Through all that pondering, a very clear idea on how i needed to shift things around came to me.


I still can’t believe it’s only Tuesday

OK well technically, it’s Wednesday now.
I guess it’s cos i have been working every day except Saturday night…

Was ON IT half of Sunday when my laptop decided to fail on me
The Finder just wouldn’t OPEN
The heart attack i tell you
I prayed, wailed, and even tried meditating my hands over my keyboard -_-
After an hour plus, i had this one thought, “Okay fine. What if i don’t do work tonight but i REALLY NEED you to work tomorrow!”

And then BLING it suddenly started working.
Just like that.
And because i made a sorta pact to NOT work if my laptop worked, i had to adhere to it…
So i bumbled around the house thinking WHAT SHOULD I DO
and ended up colour coordinating half (or a third) of my wardrobe
into creams to whites to silver to greys to black,
pinks to reds to oranges, blues to greens and turquoise,
yellows to limes to olives to golds.
Got confused at some pieces which had SO MUCH colour on it i couldn’t decide what the primary colour was so started a “colourful pattern” section

Took me almost three hours, i realised it was almost 1am and had to go to bed
Showed my work in progress to some friends and they said, “You have a shitload of clothes.”


I’m purging, i’m purging…

In between work i had the cleaner come over this morn and got her to wipe out ALL the cupboards and shelves.
While she took out all the stuff i tried to tidy up and organise them simultaneously
and discovered so many hidden treasures i never knew i had… like a John Legend & The Roots CD that’s now playing in my car.

Found some old memorabilia of past jobs or occasions (sometimes even something as stupid as a paper plane i folded :p) and had to make myself just CHUCK IT. I’m trying not to be a hoarder, and just CHUCK all these things i don’t need.

The cleaner today must’ve been super happy cos i gave her an old ipod and blackberry (they’re seriously old…) i found lying around.

And that’s just the start of it.

Next i’m going to find time on weekends to finish up my wardrobe, sort out all my books, toys, decorations, present wrapping corner, clean out the larder, medicine box, shoe cupboard, everything.

Well, that’s what i’m hoping for.
Some order in the home will bring some order to my life.

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Drop by the Main Concourse area to see all these activities they have going on,
and view the project Vince Paul Yong and i have been working on!!!


Balance baby balance

This month has been absolutely CRAZY but like i’ve learnt recently, whatever we want, is drawn into our space and it’s up to us on whether we resist it or not. I’m not gonna resist work that’s coming my way! I was taking up all the projects i could, till this week i’ve just started saying no no no to people cos i just don’t have the manpower to handle anymore.

Which is great. It’s NOT a bad thing.

I have been envisioning KinkyBlueFairy to be a creative boutique company that does whatever tickles our fancy, and all these unexpected projects have been dropping on our doorstep.

Right now we’re working on three big projects simultaneously not counting smaller social media ones on the side.

We’re launching our e-commerce website soon (finally!) and it’s already in beta phase but Sweet Ee refuses to allow me to blog about it yet.
We’re starting to work on the PR for a big fashion event coming up in October so that’s gonna take up time in Sept.
We’re pitching on event installation ideas to be had from end of this year and looking forward to next year.
I have already started to look thru the calendar on events we can take part in to promote KBF’s products and oh don’t even start about Christmas yet…

We’ve also been collaborating with photographer Vincent Paul Yong of Verve Studio for a Levi’s project.

Here’s a teaser vid for now that Levi’s just launched on YouTube:

This is all work, not counting personal stuff i have to do on the side, like spending time being best buddies with my lawyer, banker and agents in my efforts to sell off my first property so i can breathe easy on the second one i plan to renovate and move into this Jan, or maybe Dec if possible. I haven’t even confirmed the ID for it yet. Feck.

And then of course… i absolutely MUST have some personal time or else i’ll just go crazy.
I’ve started meditating every morning now. Just so i am CALM and in CONTROL.
It helps a lot.
If you want to read more, check out The Stillness Project.
It’s run by my friend Tom, whose goal is to get 1 billion people in the world to meditate.

So here are some quick pix cos tomorrow, i’m taking my parents for a one-week holiday to Bali.
We were supposed to go in April but my dad broke his back in March so he couldn’t fly and i delayed their tix and so we’re going tomorrow!
I will definitely be working while i’m on holiday with them :p
I don’t have a choice. My Levi’s deadline is looming and i’m trying not to freak out.

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I haven’t had lunch alone in the longest time and just RAN AWAY to do so one day last week.
It was glorious. Eating my favourite Jap set meal of sashimi and tempura at leisure while going through my thoughts and work notes.

Work perks include packages sent to our office from brands who love fairies :D


Thank you Sephora! My current faves are the Stila and Marc Jacobs ink eyeliners.

We also got a huge bag of Sailor Jerry goodies, this Caribbean Rum that’s making its debut in Malaysia this weekend at MTV Asia World Stage.


All i can say is we got more excited about the rum and cookies :p
We tried the rum almost immediately (in our defense, it was already evening) and it’s really smooth!
“Sailor Jerry is blended with 100% natural spices and flavours, and is inspired by the American tattoo legend Norman ‘Sailor Jerry’ Collins.”

Alcohol is always welcome in our office! Haha

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I started working out with a personal trainer at Celebrity Fitness and it’s so evil cos i keep on stopping by nearby stores to pick up ONE thing and end up buying more crap.

Wanted to buy more stickers to pretty up my car (cos she’s been acting up) and ended up with these new gloss stamp things that looked so intriguing. You know what, i can’t even tell you what it’s like to use cos i still haven’t opened it! And i got some sparkly silver Mod Podge to do up a pair of shorts. Haven’t done that either. -_-


And today, i went to buy a new Apple cable, and ended up with a dress and leggings -_-

This has go to stop.

Moving on, i HAVE been doing SOME form of art!
I had no idea what to give Rahul for his birthday so i decided to draw him on canvas.


It’s been AGES since i bothered to do any art, and i really enjoyed myself that Friday night.
Dancing, drinking, and playing with my hula hoop in between bouts of drawing and painting!

I really wanted to see his reaction when he opened it but i got so drunk at his birthday party i don’t remember what it was -_-

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Been trying to love myself MORE, and realised i have totally been neglecting my FACE.
I haven’t had a facial since early 2013.
I make time for massages, but not facials.
Thought enough is enough, and went for this Triple X facial at Energy Spa (where i go for my massages)


It took 90 minutes, and i just lay there and kinda passed out cos i was so tired.
Could also have been the massages the therapist did intermittently while waiting for segments of the facial to complete.

My skin looked and FELT so different after that i was almost embarrassed.
I asked what exactly they did kononnya it’s all these steps of exfoliating and removing of dead outer layers of rough skin to reveal younger skin underneath. Luckily i didn’t get any allergies, so despite sounding like a powerful facial, it was sensitive enough for my allergies to handle.

I’m supposed to do this once every 3 months, which i WILL henceforth.
(Seeing i don’t suppose i have time for a monthly facial anyway)

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After working on Rahul’s present till 3am on Friday night, i woke up to go for some photo shoots and interviews for people we’re featuring for our Levi’s project – from 11am till 6:30pm. And then i went for Rahul’s birthday party till 5:30am. I was utterly SPENT on Saturday!


I met Khairena of Eat Clean KL and totally got excited with her over her new spirulizer.


Baby (Studio Verve’s manager) and i obviously doing lots of hard work.
Teeheehee. Taken at LAIN Furniture


I love Baby cos she lends me her long hair to pretend i have a ponytail XD

This Levi’s project has been sweeeeet cos i’ve met so many interesting new people!

Ok i really gotta run.
It’s 8:40pm, i’m still in the office and i want to have dinner.


Selamat Hari Raya!!!!!

Selamat Hari Raya to everyone!!! I’ve spent the last two Rayas taking long holidays in Sri Lanka and Myanmar, so it’s the first in awhile i’m around (ok besides taking a road trip to Clearwater last weekend, but it was only for 2 nights). I think cos i haven’t been around during Raya for a few years, i only got invited to two open houses! It’s probably better cos i eat way too much stuff i’m not supposed to (nor should but my willpower is at is weakest right now).


One batch of friends tucking in at the Sufians


Ryan, Mo, Fook and Tianna had a little jamming session.

I came out of Rudy’s room to see them gathered together and was like, “Yay! Free music!”
Rudy joined them but after watching him talk and play and go all over the place, Ion was like, “He’s on his own planet.”
Me: *burst out laughing* “You’re the second person to say that to me in the past hour!”
The first was Rahul teehee.


Claudia and i totally vibin on some contemporary yellow patterns that day!

Stephy’s Birthday Dinner

Our baby is having a baby!
Today we celebrated her birthday a few days late by having dinner at Bait.
We must have been the loudest people laughing there.


Cammy, me, Dhanya, Aps, Steph

It’s been months since we’ve got together for a meal.

I feel so lucky to have SO many girlfriends in my life, but these girls were the first group i really got close to and we’ve seen each other through so many life celebrations and hurdles. My heart expands thinking of how much i love them!

Tomorrow, one of them and i will be going outstation for a holiday.
Me: I was thinking that i’ll just make the most of it and bring all my toys and decorations to arrange in some way, and place the babies in there to take a picture. Photoshoot! But hmm… *remembers one of them has started walking*… Cameron might run away.
Crazy Mother: We could tie him up!
Me: … But… he’s your child…
Crazy Mother: It’s ok, just TIE HIM UP.



I feel like i didn’t get enough time with them but we’ll getting our holiday soon enough…

After dinner, Aps and i went by Six for cocktails.
It’s super new so i think they haven’t finished doing up the interior yet.


I looked so indecisive while choosing a cocktail that the bartender nicely made me one that wasn’t in the menu. It had rum, bittersweet-flavoured liqueur, homemade rose syrup, sweet + menthol liqueur, and aromatic bitters in it. Was yummeh.

I just had one cos i didn’t wanna overdo it. And had to leave anyway cos i need to pack all my toys for a holiday!



Bits and bobs

Instead of opting for a short futuristic cut, i felt like keeping it a bit more feminine (haha i guess this is considered as feminine as i can go for now).


New friends i make still ask me where i get my hair done and it’s been the same answer for years - The Met @ Parkroyal! Alex is my superstylist cos he pretty much judges you based on your character and style, and whips something up. Sometimes i don’t even know what he’s gonna do to my hair – i leave it all up to him.

The Met KL Salon is having an InstaChange competition, where 3 winners will be selected each month from July-Sep 2014. Winners will each receive a free cut, colour & hair treatment + haircare products from Redken 5th NYC and exclusive skincare products from Sothys Malaysia, all valued at up to RM1,500!

All you have to do is:
1) Follow @TheMetKLSALON on Instagram
2) Post a front profile snap shot of yourself on Instagram
3) Hashtag #themetklsalon, and write (in English, Chinese or BM) what inspires and motivates you to change your hairstyle and colour

More details on their Facebook update *here*

I just noticed that Serena is still on The Met’s Facebook page cover photo with blond curls. She does her hair there too and i think… she introduced me to the salon a few years back!

Clem and i went to visit her yesterday cos she’s pretty much still house-bound with 7-week-old Chloe.


Serena looks positively RADIANT. Motherhood suits her.


Chloe is one of the most good-looking newborns i ever saw!
I swear all these half-kwailo-half-Asian babies always turn out looking so good.

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I’ve been regularly eating at BMS Organics as a healthier option to some of my meals.
They’ve got an extensive menu filled with Chinese dishes, and they’re all REALLY YUMMY and reasonably-priced.


The first dish i ordered there was the curry laksa.
It satiates my curry laksa cravings albeit with less guilt.

Everything in the restaurant is vegetarian, and i’ve been telling everyone that it’s the best vegetarian meat i’ve ever tasted. A year ago i wouldn’t have believed i would be trying to push fake meat to anyone, myself included.

Don’t be lazy, read the below to be a little bit smarter today >


I’ve been trying to slow down my meat intake since watching Earthlings and it’s not easy AT ALL, cos of the amount of meat that surrounds my social life + meals + where i dine.

Some people think i’m riding a “trend”. It’s not a trend when it’s the TRUTH of the situation our planet has plummeted into. Not wanting to KNOW nor CARE is a sign of being in denial or ignorant. It’s not like i’m a full-fledged vegetarian trying to sell the idea. I’m so not. I still appreciate a steak once in awhile, and my mince meat in my occasional hawker lunches… i’m just hoping for a bit more awareness on how eating meat daily isn’t necessary nor normal (based on the human lifestyle mere decades ago).

Ok i’ll stop there. Back to happy pictures!

I’m not a big fan of milk, so i try to compensate my calcium intake by eating lots of cut fruits in Farmer’s Union yoghurt (thanks Didi for recommending)


I need to do a toy purge in my apartment soon… lots of them are gonna go into donation before Christmas!

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My crazy Cheshire-cat-on-crack phone case from @PGadget atop my Furla Candy bag.

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I started horse-riding!

Chelsia has been asking me to join her and i really wanted to cos i’m looking for new hobbies that include more movement and activity (and less drinking :p). We woke up at 6am one morning and it was actually really nice to chat with each other, feed and talk to all the horses, take a class, feed the horses some more, then get home to shower and off to first meeting of the day.


Look what a happy fairy i am!
I must admit you can’t help favouring certain horses more than others. I’d pass one an extra carrot or two and go, “Shhh don’t show the others!”

If you think i’m being all super healthy not eating meat and going horse-riding, let me make you feel better.

Behold the fate of the cupcake that was left in a certain drunk person’s handbag:


Don’t worry, it didn’t go to waste and was still devoured.


I went to visit Louis on Friday night and met all his pets including the sweetest hedgehog!

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The BIG Group is having a Turkish Food Bazaar at The Square @ Publika till 26th July!

After having their team of chefs and buyers visit Istanbul twice this year, their inspirations have resulted in offering Turkish fare like Shish Kebab, Lamb Kofta, Tomato Dolmas, oven-baked Turkish Shortrib, Mercimek Çorbası (lentil soup), Güveç stew, Fattoush salad, Turkish ice-cream and many more for the month of Ramadhan.

To further accentuate the festive spirit, all Ben’s and Plan B outlets will be serving uniquely crafted Turkish-inspired dishes till 27th July 2014.

The BIG Bazaar will be taking place at Ben’s Independent Grocer till 3rd August, where unique Turkish discoveries of spices, nuts, teas, dried fruits, baklava and lokum have been air-flown just in time for the festive season.

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